One of my favorite Proverbs is: Kind words are like honey-sweet to the taste and good for your heart.
Sometimes when we are having a bad day, kind words are hard to find. Sometimes our words are driven by the emotions we are feeling at the moment. Sometimes we do not fully realize how those words can make another feel. And in those split seconds, when the words spout from our mouths, we have no idea what we have done to their hearts, and ours. Sometimes, saying we’re sorry helps those we have hurt, however, often times the words lie dormant, resurfacing from time to time, causing the pain to return. And the guilt that flowed from our mouths lingers longer than it should.
My Grandmother believed that she could get more from honey than she could from vinegar. I agree with her. When we stop and think before we speak, even if it is only to count to ten, I believe the words flowing from our mouths can change the circumstances.
I am not saying that we should not stand up for ourselves, or not have opinions. What I am saying, is how we use our words makes all the difference.
Remember; a gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh one stirs it up.
Kind words can change a person. I experienced it when I taught my special education students, while I listened to a friend who was having a hard day and comforting someone who just had a terrible loss.
I choose to use kind words, words that build and not tear down. Words that can make a difference. Words that can help to bring peace to a troubled heart.
What kind of words do you choose? Words that build or words that tear down?